how perceived value affects possibility of relations

if girls think that a guy has extremely high value 

and girls think themselves have normal/high value 

then that might affect girls' ability to succeed at dating that guy 

girls become too shy to take initiative to talk to guy for a date

if guy talk to girls, then girls become too nervous for a date 

translation: 

if girls are extremely attracted to guy, they desire to have sex with him as soon as possible 

so if guy talks to a girl, then in her mind, whatever he says will be translated to "have sex now" and a girl don't want to openly agree to sex first time she talks to a guy 

so if guy wants a date in a few days and determines that it might lead to sex after a few dates 

and guy talks to girl about going on a date, 

then in girl's mind she will hear "sex now" 

so guy hears that she declines going on a date with guy 

and in girl's mind she declines in having sex with guy immidiately 

"she's not that kind of girl"