layers of discretion

women seem to prefer a discreet system to make their opinions known 

before women talked to the priest in the village about issues 

and then the priest talked to the village about problems 

then the men in the village talked about how to fix problems 

and the women didn't disagree with the men 

because the men were finally talking about how to fix problems 

that women wanted to be fixed 

example: 

if daughters want to go riding horses  

but many families can't afford that because it's too expensive 

then mothers don't complain in media or to politicians 

about high cost of riding horses 

instead daughters, mothers or women make the issue known 

so that some man find out about the high cost of riding horses 

and then that man talk to other men about how families could afford so that their daughters ride horses 

and after a few layers of connections 

the issue could end up on some politician's table 

and then politicians discuss giving subsidies to riding houses 

so that child girls could go riding horses cheaply