people guiding individual

if people guide individual, 

then guiding should be done through communication, 

not through irritating, luring, threatening, abusing or forcing individual, 

that's never effective even if it seems to be 

if individual is not interested of being guided by people, 

then people's attempt at guiding is abusive 

different competing groups of people might try to guide individual, 

which might make situations too complex 

if people's attempts at guiding individual is abusive, 

then that might distress individual 

if people try to guide individual all the time, 

then that might distress individual  

people guiding individual could be mutually beneficial if communication works