humans can't change their genetic code, but they can change their neural patterns

humans can change their neural patterns in their brain, 

but humans can't change their genetic code 

what does this entail? 

reading a book can  possibly develop neural patterns 

training a sport can possibly develop neural patterns 

socialising with people can possibly develop neural patterns 

going through something emotionally painful, like romantic problems, friend problems, family problems and work problems likely develops new or enhances old neural patterns 

this is what's commonly called life lessons 

many humans tries to learn these life lessons by listening to other humans' stories either in person, on podcasts, on tv or on youtube 

learning from listening to other peoples' stories can possibly develop new or enhance old neural patterns